Brother, Can You Spare A Why?

This morning, at the ripe young age of 56, I found my Why. I’ve been looking for it for years. 


Why’s are the most important thing you can have if you want to be truly happy.  For a man it’s vital. If a man doesn’t know his Why, True Happiness will forever elude him.  This is not to say a man can’t be happy without knowing his Why, but it will be fleeting. There’ll be something missing. He may swing between moments of joy and misery.


Why’s are extremely personal. You can’t have mine. It will do nothing for you. As much as I want to help you, as much as I want to lift you up and watch you soar, you’re going to have to find your own. I can help you find it, but it needs to be yours.


Your Why is the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning.  Unfortunately, for most men their Why is “because I have to have to.”  Time to make the donuts. Time to go to work to pay the bills and to feed my family. A true Why is what makes a man jump out of bed and say “FUCK YEAH! IT’S TUESDAY!”


In order to find your Why you first need to know your True Purpose.


It’s the universal question: Why am I here? For what reason am I on this Earth in this body? What is my True Purpose?


If you don’t know your True Purpose what can you do? The answer is simple, but not easy. If you don’t know your True Purpose, then your True Purpose is to find your True Purpose!  I can help you with that too.


I’ve been practicing Yoga since 1991. I’ve known about the importance of a strong Why since 2003, and it’s taken the last 6 years of deep self-work to finally find it. True, I had to retire from Corporate America for my head to clear long enough, but finding my True Purpose came first.


For many years I’ve known that I’ve been put on this Earth to serve others. While that sounds noble and great, it never seemed to warrant a FUCK YEAH! After all, I worked in Customer Service for 23 years and while I tried to approach each call with a yogic mindset it just never rang my Bell (That’s a pun. I just retired from Verizon). 


My True Purpose is to be the Best Possible Me I Can Be. 


That sounds innocuous enough, but as I said, it’s very personal.  For me, those simple words go very deep. They carry with them the weight of many things that have held me back over the years: developing a steady physical practice; gaining mastery over my finances; overcoming a tendency towards inertia and complacency; being focused and not getting distracted and derailed from building my own business of helping other men to be happy. That’s a lot of shit to deal with. But I must do it. I’ve crossed the Rubicon. There is no turning back, or settling for less, because of my Why.

Because the look in my Only Love’s eyes when she is truly proud of me tells me I am doing my job as a man, as a husband, as a father. When I see her face, lit from the inside of her adoring heart, I will know she feels safe with me. I will know I’ve dispelled all her doubts, and the Lord knows I have given her many reasons to doubt in the past 33 years. When I see that look I’ll know that she can feel free. That’s my job. That’s my Why.


You may think that lame, or it may inspire you. Either way is fine, but you must find your own True Purpose and your own Why if you are to be truly happy. It is possible to be that.


Once you’ve found your True Purpose, and your Why, you’re on your way. You’re Light Years ahead of most men, but that’s when the real work begins.  No need to fear though. This is a road best travelled with like-minded men. 


I can help you there. You can’t have my Why, but there’s plenty of room on the Path for another brother, brother.